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Ramadan Reminders: Dinner Parties And Iftar
I've noticed some people use the following prophetic statement (hadith) to justify and encourage large iftar (breaking the fast) parties during the month of Ramadan:
"Whoever gives food to a fasting person with which to break his fast, will have a reward equal to his, without it detracting in the slightest from the reward of the fasting person" (Tirmidhi)
I think it's important to see the wisdom behind such inspiration and not to abuse it. There is a blessing in holding a family iftar meal and a attending a congregational ceremony at the mosque. Sometimes larger celebratory iftar parties can often distract people from the real virtues of Ramadan such as patience and moderation. It may even facilitate and encourage back-biting and gossip because after the fast a Muslim feels freer to relax.
The key is to avoid any situation that would distract you from attaining the pleasure of Allah. Just because you've stopped fasting doesn't mean you stop being Muslim.
Charity is very closely associated with the month of Ramadan and some scholars are of the opinion that the above hadith relates to the iftar provided to the poor and needy. I'm not in any way implying that providing iftar to people who can afford it won't earn you the reward but what I am saying is make sure the food "party" is done for the right reasons and in the right environment.
Invite a different person or smaller group over for the fast everyday instead of hosting for a huge group of people in one sitting. Prepare less food, a small portion to one person. Never throw away leftover food - freeze in tubs and distribute amongst friends. Always make du`a for those less unfortunate as you open your fast.
May Allah allow us to benefit from this auspicious month.
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